Know God. Know Love. No God. No Love

concluding the “on God’s timing” series..

PK

Let me first off by saying I am not a relationship expert nor do I have the perfect marriage and friendships.  Even my personal relationship with God can sometimes be messes up thanks to my occasional selfishness, pride and disobedience. Although I will do my best to write (although I think I speak better than I write) my perspective on what it means to “Wait for the One.”

When I  think about waiting for the one, I can’t help but ask the important questions, who is the one? When Jesus became my Lord and Savior back in ’96, I would hear a lot of my Christian friends say that they were committed to “waiting for the one.” I knew what they were talking about because it was and still is a very popular statement mostly spoken in Christian communities. But I remember asking myself, “how in the heck is that possible?” I mean, what do you do?

Do I wait and hope that God drops the perfect girl into my lap? or the other option is to have a lot of girl-friends and in the process screen them and pick the best one as if I were interviewing them for a job…What does it really mean?

It starts with defining who the “ONE” is.  It definitely is not about a particular person, girl or guy, but rather the ONE is the creator of all things, the ONE is the creator of mankind, the ONE is creator of you and I.  I’ve heard many Christians say they are trusting in God and will wait for the one that God has for them, but then later see them take matters into their own hands and create their own opportunities as if God needed assistance or He was taking too long.  At this point these individuals have taken their focus off of God and put it on themselves, silenced the voice of God and turned the volume up on their own voice.

If the question is, who is the one?  Here’s the answer…God!  There is no way you can discover your future husband or wife without discovering and first loving the ONE who not only loved you first, but also embodies and defines the word love.

My opinion is this…Christians shouldn’t say, “I’m waiting for the one” but rather “I’m loving the ONE and waiting on HIM to reveal who the one is.” I like how one pastor puts it, “You must seek the ONE, to be the one, for the one.” This is how anyone can avoid making the mistake of jumping into a serious relationship prematurely, avoid “missionary dating” or “flirt to convert” motives and avoid wasting time in temporary relationships.  Seeking God with all your heart, soul, mind, strength, and emotions should be the focus.  Too many time people say they trust God but somehow mess it all up by hooking up with someone prematurely and short circuiting God’s developmental plan for our lives.  The result is an un-approved and probably unblessed relationship.

Does this approach to “finding the one” work? Yes…and how do I know? Because I’m living proof that seeking God, treating women with respect and like sisters will, in God’s time, land you a Godly spouse who like you, put their life, faith and trust into God’s hands.  The result is a approved and blessed relationship.